When your spouse betrays your trust or crosses a boundary, it is perfectly understandable to want to end your marriage. There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your own self-respect or choosing to leave a painful situation. Few incidents in your life can be as painful as finding out your spouse has cheated on you. Infidelity has the power to destroy marriages and affect your ability to trust future partners. A Topeka divorce lawyer can help you build a strong case for divorce.

It is reasonable to feel a lot of conflicting emotions when you discover infidelity. You will likely feel angry, confused, betrayed, and possibly even a little guilty. Your spouse may try to make it seem like their decision to cheat is somehow your fault. It is vital that you move forward with a clear head and handle the important elements of your divorce. This process may take some time, which is why the help of an experienced lawyer cannot be overstated.

The Help of an Experienced Lawyer

When you deal with a divorce brought on by your spouse’s infidelity, the emotional toll of everything you’re dealing with may be too much for you to handle alone. That’s why it is so important to recruit an experienced divorce lawyer to take charge of your case and provide you with consistent help. The multi-state legal team at Stange Law Firm has brought much-needed legal help to countless clients across the country. We can bring a focused approach to your case.

Throughout this process, you may want to take a look at your state’s marriage and divorce rates. Understanding how many others are dealing with this same thing can make you feel less alone. According to recent data from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), Kansas has a very low divorce rate of 1.7 per 1,000 residents as of 2023. The marriage rate, however, is average at 5.3 per 1,000 residents as of 2023, according to the Kansas Department of Health and Environment. 

It’s understandable to feel out of control during all this. You may not know what to do with your emotions, and this may be affecting your mental health in ways you haven’t noticed yet. You can reach out to a local support group like Infidelity Survivors Anonymous or Thriveworks Infidelity Counseling. Surrounding yourself with people who are going through their own relationship traumas can be beneficial to your own healing journey.

Moving on From Infidelity

Infidelity can be one of the hardest things to move on from. The very act of cheating can be enough to cause permanent trust issues and make you second-guess your future relationships. It is important that you try your hardest to prioritize healthy coping strategies. Focusing on hatred, revenge, or pity will not help you. Here are some potentially healthy ways to start moving on from everything that has happened to you:

  • It’s important that you don’t try to seek revenge of any kind. You don’t want to take any actions that could cause harm to you or to your ex. Don’t be spiteful in the divorce, and do what you can to move on from this with a clear head. Your lawyer can help you determine a strong course of action for your case. Take comfort in your support system.
  • Another thing you may want to seriously consider is closure. Sometimes, having one last conversation with your ex can be enough to permanently close that door and start moving forward without the baggage of a past relationship. If you are up to it, you may want to have a discussion about the affair, why they did it, and how it affected you. After that, if you so desire, you never have to talk to them again. 

FAQs

Q: Do I Need a Divorce Lawyer?

A: Yes, you need a divorce lawyer. A divorce that arises from marital infidelity has the potential to be costly, emotional, and spiteful. Your spouse may seek to make things difficult for you simply because it hurts you. Having an experienced divorce lawyer on your side during this time can prove to be invaluable. They can take control of your case, help you anticipate potential setbacks, and ensure that no one takes advantage of your position.

Q: Will a Prenuptial Agreement Hold Up in Kansas?

A: Yes, a prenuptial agreement will hold up in Kansas, as long as the prenup itself fulfills the state’s requirements. These requirements include the prenup being in writing, signed voluntarily by both parties, executed prior to marriage, and include a full list of each partner’s assets and liabilities. It is entirely possible that your spouse will fight the prenup, especially if they could lose everything because of an infidelity clause. Be prepared for that.

Q: What Are the Grounds for Divorce in Kansas?

A: In Kansas, the only grounds for divorce are general incompatibility, failure to perform certain marital duties, and incompatibility by means of mental illness or the mental incapacity of one or both spouses. The most common ground that’s used in Kansas is incompatibility. Kansas is a no-fault divorce state, which means that you are not required to provide a reason for pursuing a divorce. Infidelity may not directly factor into the divorce at all.

Q: How Much Will a Divorce Cost?

A: There is no way to tell how much your divorce will cost. While you may have some rough idea of the general amount, things can easily change during divorce proceedings. If your spouse decides to be spiteful and drag it out, it could end up being quite expensive for you. You have to consider not just court costs and lawyer fees, but also potential alimony and child support. Your lawyer can help you manage the cost.

Reach Out to a Divorce Lawyer Today

At Stange Law Firm, we can help you figure out the right course of action for your case and ensure that your spouse’s infidelity is not swept under the rug. Contact us to speak to a member of our legal team about how we can help you.