When two people get married, they intend to spend the rest of their lives together. Every couple has their ups and downs, and divorce is often seen as a last resort after all other attempts to save the marriage have been exhausted. People don’t get married with the intention of getting divorced, but divorces happen frequently. Divorce does not mean failure; it means you’re choosing yourself. A Topeka divorce lawyer can help you recognize the signs of an impending divorce.

The Signs of a Divorce

It can be difficult to truly accept that your marriage has run its course. Accepting that your marriage has failed may equate to accepting defeat or admitting that you yourself have failed. That may not be the case. You may have done everything you can to keep things together, and the marriage may be over through your spouse’s actions. Either way, once it’s over, you need to be able to recognize the signs and move forward with your divorce. It may not be easy.

According to information gathered by the CDC, Kansas has a fairly low divorce rate compared to the national rate. As of 2022, the divorce rate in Kansas was 1.9 per 1,000 residents. The marriage rate in Kansas, however, was 5.3 per 1,000 residents, according to data gathered by the Kansas Department of Health and Environment.

Wherever you are, divorce can be emotionally draining to deal with. A local support group like DivorceCare can help you stay focused.

It’s important to understand that a divorce doesn’t typically come out of nowhere. It’s often the inevitable conclusion to a marriage rife with disrespect, miscommunication, anger, and betrayal, among other feelings. Everyone’s needs in a marriage are different, so the contributing factors of their divorce are going to be unique. It’s crucial not just to your divorce case but also to your own health that you recognize the common signs of an impending divorce:

  • Communication Problems: One of the most important foundational pieces of a solid relationship is communication. Without effective communication, your marriage could collapse. If you suddenly find yourself unable to talk honestly about certain difficult subjects with your spouse, it might be time to consider the possibility that your marriage is reaching a turning point from which you may not return.
  • Trust Issues: Trust is one thing that is next to impossible to get back if it’s ever broken. Many people feel that a breach of trust is something you can’t come back from. If you are unable to trust your partner because of something they once did or your own issues, that may be the end of your relationship as you know it. A lack of trust can come from unfaithfulness, abuse, and even problems with drugs or alcohol.
  • Lack of Intimacy: It is important to maintain a healthy and respectful sex life throughout your marriage. For many, being intimate with one’s partner is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. If your sex life starts to dwindle or suddenly becomes nonexistent, it can be a sign of larger problems in the relationship. If physical attraction vanishes, you need to address it quickly before it causes your marriage to crumble.

  • Constant Fighting: Every couple fights. Every couple has their own boundaries and peeves that can lead to fights when crossed. Many couples eventually make up and move on. However, if you are constantly fighting with your partner and never seem to resolve anything, it may be a sign that trust and communication are being eroded.

    One of the most important values in a marriage is compromise. Without that, the marriage may fall apart.

  • Lack of Quality Time: You and your partner need to be able to spend time together as a couple, away from family, friends, and even your children. You need quality time to remind yourself where your bond came from. It can even make your partnership stronger. If you are unable to get quality time together, it can result in growing resentment.

FAQs

Q: What Is One Strong Sign That the Marriage is Failing?

A: There is no singular sign that definitively shows the marriage is failing. Everyone’s marriage is different, and your threshold for marital issues may be different from other people’s. One consistent sign that you and your partner need to work on things is poor communication. If you are unable to communicate effectively with your partner, it may be a sign that your marriage is on shaky ground, and you need to address it.

Q: Is a Divorce Lawyer Really Necessary?

A: Yes, a divorce lawyer is necessary. You may be unaware of the divorce process in Kansas, regardless of whether your divorce is contested or uncontested. A good divorce lawyer can help you figure out a plan to ensure you aren’t taken advantage of. In a contested divorce case, you are especially going to want legal help, as those cases can get unpredictable and emotional very quickly.

Q: How Do I Restore Trust in My Marriage?

A: There is no easy way to answer that. Trust is often impossible to fix once it is broken. Everyone’s definition of trust may be different. Trust can mean not cheating on your spouse or lying to your spouse about money. If you break your partner’s trust, that may be the end of the relationship. If you act quickly, you might be able to work through these issues through counseling, but you may also need to prepare yourself for a divorce.

Q: How Does Communication Help My Marriage?

A: Communication helps your marriage by giving you the chance to work through certain relationship issues together as a couple. It’s important to remember that the situation is always you and your spouse against the problem, not you and your spouse against each other. Constant communication and honesty are vital to a strong marriage. A failure to foster strong communication can lead to a total breakdown of your relationship.

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